Last Updated on January 28, 2023 by Audrey Scott
The following is a selection of twelve lessons we shared in our talk at the World Domination Summit (WDS), plus one of those aha! moments.
When Chris Guillebeau asked us to speak at WDS about our lives and what we’ve learned, we were beyond honored and excited. Then reality hit.
Holy poop. What are we going to say in front of all those people?!
We stepped back to understand, re-evaluate and possibly to reaffirm why we chose – and continue to choose – to undertake this journey. In doing so, the hardest work wasn’t figuring out what to say, but rather what not to say. That’s what happens when you try to boil an ocean of experiences into a teacup.
To us, travel is not a transaction. It’s not a checklist. No, travel is the ultimate opportunity to make human connections and to learn from them. Fortunately, our fear on stage subsided when the stories of people we'd met on our journey took over. They were center stage, not us.
So here’s the condensed version: Twelve life lessons on the road, as distilled from our keynote presentation at the World Domination Summit (WDS). If you're thinking, “This isn't short!” keep in mind that it should take you much less than 40 minutes (the length of our talk) to read.
Note: We’ve added some notes and peppered in some examples different than the ones featured in our presentation. So the following is not exactly a transcript, but perhaps a variation on a theme. Why? Because you just had to be there.
12 Life Lessons from our Travels Around the World
1. The only way to satiate that burning curiosity: get up and go, do.
Curiosity is a catalyst that moves us between chapters. It guided us from San Francisco to Prague at the end of 2001; it also drew us away from Prague in 2006 to explore the rest of the world. It continues to influence so many of our decisions, from the everyday to the life-spanning.
We’re reminded of: Taking a boat up the Rio Paraguay for 36-hours between the river towns of Concepcion and Vallemi. While a full navigation of the river was not on tap, we couldn't have left the country without scratching this curiosity itch.
2. Embrace regret avoidance.
It’s one thing to talk about doing something big, something more, something different. It’s another thing entirely to actually do it. Sometimes it's even terrifying. That’s OK. The small print: fear is human, and of this sort it’s applauded. So when you’re sitting on the edge of the bed deciding whether to take your big life plunge (whatever that may be), look out 5, 10, 15, 20 years and wonder: “Will I look back and regret not doing this? Will I wonder, ‘What if?‘”
We’re reminded of: Something we call deliberate living.
3. If people think you're doing something crazy, you're probably doing something interesting.
Not that “interesting” ought to be your talisman of life satisfaction. After all, “interesting” is one of the weakest words the English language has to offer. However, when you’ve actually given a bit of thought to what you’re doing and people look at you like you’re nuts, it's likely that yours is a departure from the norm, a risk. Departures can be unsettling.
We’ve spent a significant chunk of our adult lives together answering questions like, “Are you crazy?” These queries usually are a sign that we’re on our way to or in the midst of something good.
We’re reminded of: Base-flying off a 37-story building in Berlin for our 11th wedding anniversary.
Before continuing with the list, we take a break for one of those real aha! moments and a word from one of our philosophical sponsors.
Late last year, as in almost exactly five years after our journey began, we found this quote from Vaclav Havel — the famous Czech playwright, dissident, Velvet Revolutionist, and first president of the Czech Republic – just after his death:
“Hope is definitely not the same thing as optimism. It is not the conviction that something will turn out well, but the certainty that something makes sense, regardless of how it turns out.”Vaclav Havel, dissident and first president of the Czech Republic
Prior to Havel’s death, we’d never before seen these words. But when we read them, they took our breath away. There it was, ex post facto, the rationale for choosing to do what we do, the way we do it. Those words resonate deeply and speak directly to the motivation of this journey, tapping right into the heart of what we do.
It's our “Why.”
Our journey features absolutely no guarantees and sometimes deals up more uncertainty (of various stripes) than either of us can seem to withstand, but we continue. Why do this? Why travel like this? Because sharing our stories helps to humanize people and places that are often misunderstood, feared or completely disregarded. Sometimes, we do it in service to humanity. Sometimes, we just do it for ourselves. Regardless, we believe that more understanding = less fear = more peace.
And when we think about it, this quote is apropos to the WDS conference. Hope and optimism are not the same, but through great effort, it's possible to merge them. When Chris Guillebeau opened the WDS conference, we were heartened to hear him emphasize the three primary themes of the conference: Community, Adventure, and Service. While the name World Domination Summit sounds harsh to some, its those calls to service and to embrace our humanity that sets it apart.
Break over. Back to the rest of the list.
4. There is no greater generosity than the generosity of spirit.
Throughout our journey and our lives, we have found ourselves repeatedly humbled by the generosity of those who have very little, but who find room to give all that they are able, without reservation. The great irony is that this happens most often in countries deemed “dangerous” back home.
We’re reminded of: Driving through the Wakhan Valley in the Pamir Mountains of Tajikistan and not having a place to stay for the night. We were humbled by a local shopkeeper who took us into her home. We shared dinner together with her family and spent the night. Despite the fact that basic necessities can be a struggle, this family shared with us all that they could and welcomed us into their home, with little expectation of anything in return.
5. Travel: At the end of the day, it’s all about the people.
We all love a beautiful landscape, building, or sunset. But when we return from afar, it’s often the stories of the people we’ve met that remain with us. Similarly, when you’ve visited a place, news stories from there carry much greater meaning because they'll remind you of people you've met. Places are slowly transformed from objects into communities that hold human connections.
We’re reminded of: Meeting Simin (below) on the train from Iran to Turkey, the poem she wrote to us, and how she asked us to tell others back home about the “real” Iran.
6. Don’t forget to ask about the bean soup.
In travel, as in life, follow your curiosity, ask questions, and say “hello.” Provided your interest is genuine and heartfelt, you should never be embarrassed to pursue, to ask, to engage. And when you do, especially when you are in a foreign place, average ordinary people will more often than not come to your aid.
We’re reminded of: A touching impromptu feast courtesy of the gregarious market women of Zugdidi, Georgia when we asked where we might find lobio, our favorite Georgian bean soup.
7. We're all more connected than we think.
“It’s a small world.” We're often quick to the cliche, without considering its implications. One implication: we're all more connected than we think, and not just through social networks, but through who we are and the things we have experienced. We have a lot in common to talk about, you and we. We have the opportunity to make personal connections anywhere we choose to go in this world.
So the next time you are riding that bus to Timbuktu, the train to Portland, or to wherever in whatever, don’t forget to say hello and strike up a conversation. You just might be surprised by whom you meet and what connections you share.
We’re reminded of: A small world Scranton, PA connection in the remote town of Karakol, Kyrgyzstan.
8. It’s incredible what can happen when someone invests in you, has faith in you.
In our work with microfinance projects from India to Bolivia, many of the people involved previously never had anyone invest in them. Investment, even in very small amounts, can be a powerful gesture. Often, the ripple effect goes beyond the cash and says: “I believe in you.”
It’s mind-boggling to think that $10 or $20 loaned to someone can help start a business and change a life.
Chris Guillebeau understands the power of this. With the help of an anonymous donor, he gave each WDS attendee $100 to invest in their dreams. The gesture itself is worth much more than the actual value of the cash. Why? It's the difference between “Here's a 100 bucks.” and “Here's a 100 bucks, I believe in you and am interested to see what you can do with it.”
We’re reminded of: The women from a village in northern West Bengal, India and the stories they told of their own personal and community transformation because they participated in a microloan program with Five Talents.
9. Life is a team sport.
Never underestimate the power of support, of a group that believes in you and helps you through difficult times. At some point in our lives, we've probably all felt like we've had to go it alone, haven't we?
We’re reminded of: Visiting a small microfinance group loan program in Huancavelica, Peru with Five Talents. One of the women spoke often about her group’s support for her – including covering her loan payments when she was sick. She regained her health and continued to run a small business. “When one of us falls, we help her even more,” she recalled with tears in her eyes.
10. Focus on what you have, don't dwell on what you don’t.
It’s easy to pay undue attention to what is missing. And in doing so, it may be easy to get caught up in the comparison game, of what other people have or the easy breaks they've apparently received along the way. Let it go. Focus on what you have and you can move forward and put into perspective what you believed was holding you back.
We’re reminded of: Josephina a woman we'd met outside of Guatemala City through a Kiva microfinance project. While she was missing part of her right arm, she had an unassailable spirit and ran multiple businesses. Her mother taught her that she could do anything that someone with two arms could do.
11. Human connections transcend borders.
People we've met the world over, regardless of sophistication, voice the following thankful reality: “Actions of governments are different than the actions of the people.” Travel provides the platform and opportunity to create these human connections, to strip away the fear of the “other” and to discover that we are more similar than we are different.
We are reminded of: Our travels through Iran, a place where we were warmly welcomed – as Americans – by ordinary Iranians everywhere we went, even as our governments barely spoke to each other.
12. Personal accomplishment = great; shared accomplishment = sublime.
Accomplish something on your own and it feels great. Work with others and motivate each other to bring out everyone's best, and it feels even better.
We’re reminded of: When we first approached Mount Kilimanjaro, we looked at it as a sort of “man vs. mountain” exercise. However, climbing it proved to be anything but. Each person on that mountain struggled in his own way, but by motivating one another, we kept going one foot in front of the other until we all made it to the glacier top, within minutes of one another, after bouts of defeat just hours before.
That together we all made it, that's the story.
What are some of the most significant lessons about life that you have learned from your travels?
Some of you have asked for video footage of our presentation at WDS (World Domination Summit) 2012. We’re working on it. We hope to be able to share some clips soon.
Update: We have video footage!! Below is the full version of our talk (about 40 minutes), but if you are short on time and want the highlights, then check out our abridged WDS talk.
29 thoughts on “Travel-Reinforced Life Lessons and The Why (Our WDS Presentation on the Short)”
I love when #6 moments happen 🙂
Nicely said! So glad you guys got to share at WDS, it’s a cool thing that Chris is doing, trying to help others forward on their dreams! Kudos to you for participating!
@Jennifer: When people first hear the conference title “World Domination Summit” sometimes people get a bit put off, but the conference is anything but “domination” in a negative way. You are so right in that what Chris is trying to do is help others towards their dreams, and at the same time keep the sense of service and purpose. We were really honored to have been asked to share our story with all the inspiring people attending.
@Emily: They are the best, aren’t they? So many of our best memories and experiences happened that way.
You guys remain as one of my favourite travel bloggers… an incredible inspiration as always. This is actually the first I have heard of the WDS… I will have to check it out. Here’s to another 5+ years… all the best!
I love, love, love this. You guys are an inspiration.
@Skott: Really honored to be one of your favorite travel bloggers! Know there’s a lot of competition out there 🙂
Tickets to WDS are hard to come by, so be sure to sign up on the website to be notified when they are on sale and then be online at the time. It’s a great conference with a good community of people trying to do their big to help the world in each and every way.
@James: Aw, thank you! And, we LOVE that Scrabble board you created – makes me smile every time! Look forward to running into you somewhere in this big/small world of ours.
You are so right! We are all more connected then we think. And when you listen, engage and ask you learn and get inspired. I get inspired every time I get in to a taxi.
“3. If people think youâ€™re doing something crazy, youâ€™re probably doing something interesting.” — my favorite! Thanks for posting these. I’d love to meet you guys at a conference one of these days.
I’ve really been enjoying all these WDS round-ups. Yours is wonderfully inspiring for someone like me who has just started on their journey. I love the Havel quote. Ive recently been thinking a lot about why I am travelling. I originally described it as a quest to find a way to live, but the word quest niggled at me until I realised it wasn’t a quest at all. To quest implies a fixed destination or goal, when actually the journey is the destination. I wrote a post on it recently interspersed with quotes that inspire me. The Havel quote would have been perfect. Thanks again for sharing.
@Taxi Traveller: Taxis are some of the best places to find connections with people and get into some really interesting conversations. Just asking a simple question in a taxi usually leads to a really fun discussion.
@Edna: This is one of my favorites as well 🙂 Hope our paths cross one day…it’s a small world!
@Victoria: So glad you enjoyed this and found inspiration in it for your current journey. It took us a while to find this quote, but when we did it seemed to fit perfectly. Like you said, quest indicates a fixed goal or endpoint, but this is really more about the journey in the way that makes sense, that is “right” for you. Thanks for your great comment!
Love the Havel comment on Hope! It struck me the same way as it stuck you guys when you first heard it. I always love your stories and can’t wait for the next installment. When it comes down to it, we’re all the same, we have the same hopes (in a general sense) for ourselves and our families. It is your generosity of spirit that you can make people tell their stories and then we your readers come to know them.
Thanks for being such an inspiration. I truly love this post!
@Sutapa: So true. Our (the royal our) experience bears this out. Your final comment about generosity of spirit and stories is itself quite generous. Thank you. I hope we can continue to live up to it.
@Lorii: Glad you enjoyed it. Thank you.
@Jen: A vote for doing something crazy, but grounded in humanity. Love it! That is the beauty of life, indeed.
@Carmela: And thank you for stopping by. Another vote for doing something crazy, and a shared meal with new friends halfway around the world!
#3. is my favorite! Ultimately though, it “IS” about human connections and that is the beauty of life.
I agree with Jen & Edna! #3 is great. Meeting other people and sharing meals with them have been some of our best experiences.
Many many thanks for this post.
Regarding #7 this is so completely true. I went to Amsterdam last year and met a local resident at a cafe. After talking for 10 minutes I found out she was a web designer. When I asked her to see some of her work I discovered she designed my cousin’s website!! Was so completely weirded out and excited at the same time. Definitely is a small world.
Loved Vaclav’s quote â€œHope is definitely not the same thing as optimism. It is not the conviction that something will turn out well, but the certainty that something makes sense, regardless of how it turns out.â€
Hope is the biggest inspiration to live.
@Jonas: Great story! Yes, we are so much more connected than we ever could imagine.
@Catherine: Couldn’t agree more!! It’s a quote that has really stuck with us and one that we go to often.
@Kelly: Thank you!! Appreciate it!
en’courage! en’courage! Thank-you for this list! Will re-post!
This was a very timely read for me. Thank you for making the strong connection between travel with doing good.
I found #3 true, quite true.. for my side though, it’s a little different. I have a tattoo, and some of my friends who don’t understand art thinks I’m crazy (my family’s an exception though, I’m giving them the right). But you don’t have to feel like you did something stupid,.. I completely ignore them, and continue doing what makes me what I am.
This is a great post, really informative. Kudos to both of you! 🙂
I love this post, You are an inspiration to others traveler. I like when you motivate each other during your journey to Mount Kilimanjaro.
@Andrew: We’re happy to do it!
@Rachel: Being who we are is really all we can be, regardless of whether or not we choose to do something crazy. Thank you for your comment.
@Sandy: Glad to hear it!
Even though I enjoy Solo Travel, I agree that its the people that I meet on my trips that make it memorable. I have met the most fascinating locals and travelers, that I feel that I would not have come in contact with if I had been traveling with another person. Each journey that I make I learn something new about myself. That can be good and bad!
@Elle: Regardless of whether you travel alone or together with someone, it’s all about the people. It’s their stories and our interactions with them that carry the day and stir the greatest emotion and changes within us.
By the way, whenever we learn something new about ourselves — regardless of what it is that we learn — it can only be good. For if that thing is “bad”, having learned about it at least gives us the awareness to then do something about it.
I wish more people had the desire and ability to travel. Not be tourists, but actually travel. If everyone or at least more people stopped their lives and tried to build a home, however temporarily, in a new place I think we would have a much more peaceful a self actualized world. Our differences are really so small and when they seem so large, they really are just misunderstood. Thank you for this wonderful list and hopefully it will encourage more people to travel.
@Megan: I suspect that every little bit helps, be it travel, extended living somewhere else around the world, or just a healthy dose of curiosity even about those things in our midst, just around the corner. Thanks for your comment.
I really enjoyed reading this. I think travel is one of the (if not THE) most eye-opening, stereotype-breaking, mind-liberating, spiritually-uplifting, and educative experience one can have. Whenever I read your posts, I feel inspired to get up and do something more. As you put it, I’d not want to look back 10 years from now with a lot of regretful what-ifs.
You guys are an inspiration, among my favourite travel bloggers. I also admire how you’ve managed to do all this as a couple.
@Timothy: Thanks so much for compliment and your very thoughtful endorsement!